Parents who make this simple mistake raise ‘mentally weak children,’ says psychiatrist: ‘You are increasing your self-esteem by stealing theirs’

Psychiatrist and bestselling author Daniel Amen believes that children need the chance to solve problems on their own, even if it means experiencing consequences. Speaking on the Built Different podcast, he cautioned that parents often make the mistake of “overdoing” for their kids, which can lead to “mentally weak children.” His perspective echoes that of Barnard College child psychologist Tovah Klein, who previously told CNBC Make It that resilience doesn’t come from either harsh punishments or constant protection. Instead, children build resilience when they are allowed to face disappointment and learn how to cope with challenges. Experts emphasize that while parents naturally want to protect their children, stepping back and letting kids navigate struggles can foster independence, problem-solving skills, and long-term mental strength. The goal isn’t neglect but balance—offering guidance when needed while allowing space for children to develop resilience through real-life experiences.